Yet again, I find myself taking responsibility for something I did not do. Recently I was blamed for something that I am not quite sure about. I was told by the person I betrayed that I knew what it was and was given a vague reference. The thing referenced could have spanned many years of information. So, instead of denying I did it, I took the responsibility for it.
"Why?", you might ask. Well let me tell you. I figured, "what the heck", I had already been found guilty of it and was already being punished for it so why bother? Plus, I wasn't asked. I was told that I did it. Why fight a lost battle?
The most important reason, I love my parents and want them to be happy.
However, if my taking responsibility gives the injured person a sense of relief, then I am happy to do it. I care deeply for this person and would not intentionally hurt this person. However, if I have, then I humbly apologize and would gladly, publicly, take the blame to ease her hurt.
Pride is such a small price to pay to make sure others feel good.
That is all I will ever say on this subject.
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Our Stake President recently apologized to our ward on behalf of anyone who might have offended us. It was actually pretty amazing to hear him humbly take responsibility for something he didn't do.
People say we are judged on actions alone, however we know we are also and probably more so judged on how we handle the trials or wrongful actions done to us. I would say you would be most definitely passing at this point!!!.
Aunt Marina, I know that you taking blame for something that you weren't sure that you had done seems like the right thing to do. I don't think that's fair to you or the other party. I'm sure the other party would feel better about everything if you were to express how you truly feel. Never apologize for something that you didn't do, even if it can make someone feel better. It's just not fair to anyone. I hope things start smoothing over soon.
Meagan,
Your words make my heart happy. I know what you are saying and it should be that way. But, in this case, it really is for the best. Sometimes when the hurt subsides, things don't quite add up and it comes out. Trust me, I have been under similar busses for many o' years with the same bus driver :)
There are certain things in life that I have discovered for myself. I like having peace in my life. Sometimes taking responsibility is not about taking blame for something. It is about being responsible for your actions and how you deal with someone else's feelings. I take responsibility for this because I care a great deal for this person. Otherwise, I would fight it tooth and nail which would have done nothing but made things worse and feelings more hurt, and brought so much more into the mix which is never a good combination. Like I said, pride is a small price to pay. Especially when you love someone. It makes it easier to pick up the pieces if the storm passes.
Again, thank you for your comment. It really does mean a lot to me.
Wait, the comment about the bus driver came out wrong. That makes it sound like the pweson who it upset is always throwing my under the bus. That is not how it was meant. I tell you, sometimes things sound much better when they are in my head but do not translate so eloquently when they come out of my head :)
Hahaha! I know what you meant<3 I think this is the season for healing and I hope that it continues in a healthy way!
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